10 HABITS OF HIGHLY SEXUL COUPLES

ψ 10 Habits of Highly Sexual Couples
According to sex therapists

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By Jen Glantz
Jun 2, 2017
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There are peaks and valleys in every long-term relationship. If you and your partner are going through a dry spell—sex has become inconsistent, or no longer valued in the relationship—it may be time to get things back on track. How do other couples keep things hot in the bedroom? Here, we spoke with leading sex therapists to find out what they say are the top 10 habits of highly sexual couples.

1 They embrace imperfection.

 
Life isn’t perfect, and neither is sex. “Couples who have a lot of sex don’t look for the perfect situation, like being on vacation when your kids are not with you. In daily life, work stress, family stress, and home stress of all kinds come into play,” says Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a licensed sex therapist and marriage and family counselor. “Couples who have a lot of sex take advantage of less than perfect moments.”
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2 They aren’t always sexually selfish.

While it’s easy to get lost in the desire to feel pleasure, sex is more likely to happen when both parties aren’t so selfish. “Highly sexual couples aren’t self-centered. It’s not all about one person or the other,” says Kristie Overstreet, Ph.D., clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, and founder of TherapyDepartment.com. “These couples listen to what each other needs especially when it comes to sex. They are in-tune with each other’s sexual arousal and they deliver.”

3 They’re comfortable in their skin.


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Having more sex can come down to loving yourself, all of yourself, before making love to someone else. “Those who feel comfortable with their bodies don’t get hung up on how their bodies look, feel, or smell to one another,” says Overstreet. “They feel at ease with one another which allows them to take advantage of every opportunity to be sexual.”

4 They ΞTrustΞ each other.

One key trait that highly sexual couples have in common also contributes to successful marriage: trust. “You can’t be a highly sexual couple and have trust issues,” Overstreet explains. “Trust and intimacy are in tandem and you can’t have one without the other. These couples have worked through any trust issues, so this is one less barrier to their intimacy.”

5 They don’t rely “on” being in the mood.

Couples who get busy frequently don’t rely on being “in the mood,” because that might be something they rarely feel, especially when kids or a busy work schedule are in the picture. “If you’re not in the mood, sometimes a little foreplay can get you there,”says Richmond. “This is especially true for women, for whom arousal often precedes desire.”

6 They’re eager to have fun.

Couples who’ve been together for a long time may feel the sexual spark beginning to fade, especially if their bedroom time turns into a predictable routine. “Sexual couples have fun. Sex doesn’t have to be super sensual,” says Richmond. “Sex can be fun and flirty. There can be laughter. Sometimes the natural way to have sex is funny and fun – give into that.”

7 They admit what turns them on.

No matter how many times you’ve had sex with your partner, it can sometimes be hard to voice what it is that turns you on, or even what you’d like more of. “One thing highly sexual couples do is during sex and physical intimacy, they are verbal and open. Well before sex, tell your partner something personal, something intimate about how you are feeling,” recommends John Robinson, NMD, who specializes in sexual health and hormones. “It could be about anything. Just show that you are open. This starts the sexual communication immediately.”

8 They have sex to rekindle connection.

8 They have sex to rekindle connection.

Since relationships can fall stale, having frequent sex can bring back the sense of commitment and even the strong bond the two of you have built over time. “Highly sexual couples see sex as a way to simply connect, even if it is for a short while,” says Robinson. “See what happens if you simply commit to having sex every day for a week, no matter what. No excuses, just do it, and see how that starts to improve your level of intimacy, your self-esteem, and your personal bond.”

9 They’re not opposed to quickies.

 Finding time for sex may start to make the act of getting down and dirty with your partner something that feels like a chore. “Highly sexual couples take advantage of the ‘quickie,'” says Richmond. “Sex doesn’t have to be 20 or 30 minutes. A quickie can be very hot and passionate and can feel great.”

 

10 They have ΞMore in common than sex.

Having a mutual love for getting it on isn’t all that sexual couples have in common. “Sharing hobbies and interests—hiking, adventure, travel, and the like—helps to maintain long-term sexual passion,” says Robert Weiss, LCSW, and author of several sex-focused books including Always Turned On. “Highly sexual couples also tend to share core values and belief systems. In a general way they tend to be on the same page with things like religion, politics, finances, education, and the like.”

 

 

 

“ARMOR UP” CUFFING SEASON IS AMONGST is HERE!!!

black couple.jpgThe trickiest time for relation/situation-ships of the year. Go ahead take a stress nap. We will wait. “CUFFING SEASON” and the fuck boys are lying in bushes lurking with calculators, and  shoe catalogs, sniffing around for the SCENT. Oh no , they aren’t just looking for something quick and accessible to Tag. They know exactly where they can find that. There DM’s are filthier then you can imagine, there are probably more than 15 Bustdown’s within a  5 mile radius of them………..wherever they go. They are searching for ” a woman to cuff”, someone available for a small partnership, desperate enough to overlook his stagnation, lonely enough to need “somebody  to cuff this season.

And they are searching for Money sweethearts…………. these Refund Check Hexing “can I claim your kid” credit snatching Drones are trying to slip N Slide there way right into tax season like a Master Piece.

THIS IS NOT A TEST

Cuffing Season creates the bloodlust of dollars, indulgence, perks, comforts. For three months an well into the Spring, a man will have somewhere descent and sanitary to kick it at,  familiar and hopefully disease-free hole to smash on access, free food, romantic date opportunity has doubled, b/c the season brings love out of us all , and he has just doubled his holiday celebration, now having you and your family on his plate. This ninja is already getting one of his Thot-Trots to take inches out his pants. Preparing for the oncoming feast he about to have with YOU and YOURS. These people have no shame. BEWARE LADIES. Beware.

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A unacquainted Fukboi will want his Winter situation, to be in close in proximity to him. He does not want to spend money traveling to and fro to access his Cuff. No. No….. this is his time to GAIN. They are looking for Women who knows live close by are great contenders. Depending on his disposition, he will make sure to solidify his “place” in your life quickly during these months. He needs something familiar that he can trust, create a familiar-ness which makes him feel comfortable, which they love.

Despite the very distant behavior displayed during the Sundress Summer months, Fukbois may want real intimacy during this cold time of year. He wants to be privy to emotional closeness and of course sex can  makes anyone feel consolidated. Guys who were at first giving you the “I’m not ready speech” trying to lay rock and concrete the situation. THIS IS NOT LOVE.

At least not for you………..

Single people have always enjoyed the “single experience” until its 12:30 at night, desolate and dark, then the coldest type of emptiness creeps into a person. This is why  most Booty calls and hookups happened during the twilight hours, to ease the pain of being alone and at a stalemate, insubstantial and unattached, during a very enchanted part of the day. But I’m getting off base here. Although it is nice to have a holes to cuddle in during the very coldest months of the year they really just  blood hounding those dollars ladies. They attempting to solidify half-witted fuck-ships and situations to slide into the gift-giving seasons. The season of  celebration where food, wine, liquor become perks of association. Then they can swig-way themselves into Christmas holidays.

Now is the time, where we put down all the sewage-brass excuses and become quality inspector extraordinaire on all there so called “relationships we have been entertaining.

Lets keep is Gushy. You know when, and if a relationship is not going anywhere by August. The summer time showed you his true breeding habits, it tested his reliability, and his ability to remain consistent with you. So November is a milestone mark for relationship assessment.

We as women pretend we don’t see the things we know damn well we SEE. You know if the passion between you and your man had taken a nose dive to ninth hell, you know if he broke , but “Slang-o-les the Magnificent” in the bedroom, or if his finances got tremor disease, you know if that person lead the minute man march (JESUS!!!) Don’t settle because its getting colder. Stay strong and RICHER being alone, if that is what it takes to remain loyal to what you want.

 

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MO THE MERRIER? BUT WHAT ABOUT ALL THE SOUL-TIES?

We live in an extremely free society and sometimes this can be a bad thing. When it come to sex, many of us have been prone to have multiples partners. There is a glamour politely glossed over having “bad bitches” or female(s) based on appearance as an premium brand of woman. Women have become commodities. To have a “BB” on your arm is a indication of wealth of fame. It doesn’t matters if this woman is ratchet and mentally barren, her shape, the size of he booty, is all the active currency she needs. On the other hand ,Women often chase guys who appear to be “ballers”  toting a bank roll, whips a sports car, and wears all the latest clothes. Sex is often used as a basis for superficial relationships.  You will be surprised by how many people who dealing with people whom they dislike but the sex is hot .But all these desires are empty.

Sex doesn’t actually fulfill us alone, and once we know this, we would be less prone to connect to others in this way.

Foundations are built on mutual, love, and respect. Self-love is the most under-rated entity. Self-love flowers patience, a person opting to be alone, or to be preserved rather than indulging in temporary satisfaction, sit-u-a-tionships , and connecting to people their, energy, and their baggage, Its universal flees without a warning.

my-body-is-a-templeIn actuality having multiple romantic relationships can be exhaustive of your energy. think of your love , attention, and money as an non-renewable natural resources. Every time you open yourself , whether physical, emotional, or material, we create a tie to that person. If attempting to walk a straight line , attempting to evolve into the person you know you were meant to be, may require untangling the loops of energy you intermingled in your auto-polite stage. It is beautiful to share love, but always be conscience of what actions affect all involved.

Your Body is indeed a temple , be careful of what you allow entrance to.

HAPPY FISHING

‘Tossing SA-LADS” “Cool to EAT THE BOOTY or Nah?

EAT IT UP LIKE GROCERIES? Or Nah? Since Kevin Gate’s very upfront mention of slating the busy backdoor clean, Women and men everywhere have been wondering if it now okay to “Chop it down like groceries”? ………………………..The answer is complicated. Because the question should be “Is it okay to finally talk about it …..publicly? That’s more the climate.

Cause people have been Salad-Chefing for years, don’t be naïve people.

As shocked as some people will appear to be by the mere mention of “eating booty”  or  “back door dining” actual term “tossing salads” has been performed  for decades, as a way of stimulation in the buttocks for all types of sexual relationships . For homosexual men, I would believe this to be a very base level foreplay activity. Our society is accustomed to oral and vaginal pleasure, being the only forms of acceptable sexual activities, but now Annili-gus has backed up on the scene. The bar of what it means to be “nasty” just ate a mushroom and leveled up like an Italian plumber. If being nasty is equivalent to be creative, determined, and uninhibited in the way one expresses their love, then I pray for the nastiest of Men to appear in my life. If you want to Eat it up? Eat it well.

 

There are many risks with performing Annili-gus , and in all forms of sex, be sure to practice safely. Risks include exposure to human excrement, bacterial diseases, virus, and other sexually transmitted infections.

Personally, don’t believes there are physical limits on how two people choose to express their love. If there is no limits to their burning passion. May their beacon shine bright and their creation carry them asunder.

ALL FORMS OF SEXUAL CONTACT HOLDS THESE RISKS SO ALWAYS PRACTICE SAFLY. I PRAY THAT NO ONE IS GOING AROUND EATING, RESURFACING, OR ANNIYILATING ANY PENIS OR VAGINA AT EASY ACCESS, KNOWING EATING THE WRONG BOOTY COULD LEAD TO JUST AS MANY MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS AS INTERCEPTING THE WRONG VAGINA, OR THE LIKE.

 

DONT TOUCH THOSE BIBS STAY TUNED HERE*

TRAP Twinsies? Fetty Wap slathers his one eyed seed around

HMMMMMMmmmmm now where’s that snipping tool when you need it? Fetty Wap, father of 6 six kids, is a bout to level his numbers up  to a cool octave. Yes, he has not one, but two trap buns in the oven by two different women.  The first trap bundle is  with model Alexis Skyy, Sources confirm that the “Trap Queen” rapper is expecting a girl with the I nstagram model. But that’s not it…………………..

 

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He confirm that he is also expecting a boy with his current baby mama. and the other one, it sounds like he confirms is a boy in this radio clip. I think it may be time to “put that thang down”. Its not the greatest thing to have a squad of baby’ mama’s, not of whom which you ever wifed, or planned too. Every new love interest is a potential liability. If I were a rapper with a little fortune, I wouldn’t be risking my money and livelihood on every Instagram model with a fact ass and a pretty face. The market is flooded with them.

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But what do you think? Spread the Seed or TRIM THE FAT.

 

 

 

 

That’s A Vibe

  Lets Start Vibing!!!!

So whose really a girls best friend? Diamonds? yes , receiving a diamond studded tennis bracelet will no doubt put a smile on any woman’s face temporarily. Glistening and shinning beautifully on your wrist? Blinding the peasant dying from poison seeping out of cubic zircon ins, ahhhhhhh …….Happiness right? WRONG? A girls best friend is her Vibrator. This angelic and utterly magnificent piece of ingenuity has the capability of providing any woman with true Happiness and joy. Without having to dryly direct novice love makers of the very unique methodology involve in maximizing the tantric love making of “you” , no other parties need to be involved in this explorations. You are the captain of your ship, you can hit every spot, every mother loving time. Choosing a vibrator is choosing love!!! It is also a great alternative to becoming a slore when you are not in a steady commitment, or strategically figuring out how to successfully bait or trap a man while experiencing delays. Tip*Try to use starvation as a method of slavery, without you having to give up your gushy magna cum lande and all the while remaining in optimal orgasmic ascendance.

Vibrators also are suitable for Single moms who do not date for sport. This handy little utopian stutter machine is capable of providing you with multiple orgasms, all without spending gas fare traversing to a F**ck boy’s house, or having to mentally deal with the agitation suffered from being in his presence and pretending to like him for the di”k.

 

The smaller the vibrator, the more powerful the blows. Vibrators can be purchased online anywhere. Make sure to pay a decent amount for your little lover. You would hate for your motor to blow before invoking the volcanic eruption of a life time.

Here’s a list of 2017’s best little earth shakers

http://blog.mysecretluxury.com/best-new-sex-toys-of-2017/

                                  Happy Orgasms? A cherry stimulating conversation  

 

 

Side Pieces and Half Eaten Entrees

Our modern world has brought so many technological and cultural advances to our shabby little lives. What would we do without the iPhone, keyless entries, and a world so socially connected, we can now argue its flatness. But a socially perverse world has given birth to an uncharted realm of sexual indulgence and promiscuity . The possibility of losing your husband , or long-term partner to porn has always been an nightmare women have guarded against (A pole dancing class or learning a new audacious tongue technique usually get the sparks flying. However, many husbands have now spent countless hours, and resources on side relationships. It has been deemed a luxury to afford a benchwarmer incase the main player is missing her shots.

I still cant figure out who in the Hell authorized side pieces? Sure, Hookers, concubines, boy toys, etc. have existed for thousands of years, but those imperfections lived amongst the  shadows, never to be glorified. Now , saying that you “girl has a girlfriend” is some “cool stamp of approval” .It sounds like multiple clinic visits and antibiotics (hopefully) to me.

Thank You Rap music and your ability to yet again destroy and confuse. Hip Hop exalts the struggle, the hustle of doing what you must, and never showing too much emptions. Rap music id s befuddlement of liquor advertisement, plastic surgery enthusiasts. and governmental extermination hypnosis.

Please understand this brand of hypnosis  is extremely cheap and extremely effective. Do not get swept up in the hype, Healthy-loving families are built on trust, love, and effective communication.

50% of marriages in the United State fail. The statistical data for black marriages was so gross, it was not even worth mentioning. From my perception, wives/husbands should try investing more energy into the unions they vowed to cherish. Regardless of the God someone chooses to worship. There should not been any time, energy,  or money left to indulge in anyone else if two people are putting everything they have into each other.

Ladies and  Gents, don’t be fooled by the dingy diamonds , for the untrained eye, they sparkle just as bright.

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